There is a saying–“There are two sides to every story.” We tell people to wait to get all the information before forming an opinion. I recall in high school reading Dear Abby suggest you write a note, expressing all your frustrations with a person and then instead of stamping and mailing it, tear it up! (more satisfying than the delete button, to be sure.) And then there is the game of Telephone. The internet often reminds me of these things, chat rooms and forums in particular, (but news outlets are getting as sloppy as private people expressing opinions about the widget de jour.)
A few weeks ago, on one of the first truly beautiful afternoons of the spring, I decided to eat my lunch in my car. Eventually, an older woman came to her car which was parked next to mine in the lot. And as she approached her car from behind, she started gesticulating and mumbling to herself. She saw me sitting in my car, windows down, food in hand and just had to point out to me how disrespectful people were nowadays, how this vehicle parked behind her was almost touching her car, tells how he had all that space behind him but he was practically touching her bumper.
Not having a horse in this race, I took another bite of my sandwich, smiled, nodded my head and went on reading my book. She put her bags in her car, locked up and headed off to another store.
A few minutes later, a gentleman wearing a clerical collar unlocked the door of the SUV that was apparently overstepping its bounds and he backed out and left.
Far too quickly my lunch was over, and I got out of my car and headed back to work.
As I passed this ladies car, it turned out that HER bumper was over the center line more than 15 inches. When she had pulled into the spot and through it, it seems she didn’t use her space appropriately, and so the vehicle coming in behind her had no choice but to get close to her bumper in order to fit into the space.
Make the moral of this story what you will.
Words. Language. Semantics. I am not always the most eloquent (the post previous to this being a prime example…my husband’s blog regarding the new year was far more all-encompassing and descriptive…)
…but I LIKE words. I like to read them–far more than one book a week– I like to write them–(last year, my second 178,000 word (fan-)fictional story, someday, the great American novel…. :})
The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug. ~Mark Twain
And I understand the power of words. One of the most important skills in my job is being able to choose words appropriately, to convey a variety of (mostly positive) feelings and descriptors. Think of how many online “wars” could be avoided would that the words ‘spoken’ were chosen with more care? (Not to mention how many real wars, how many families ripped apart)….
“Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care, for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or evil.”
Siddhartha Gotoma or Buddha (563-483 B.C.)
I have chosen a WORD for the past few New Years Day. (Insight, Inclusive, Deliberate are past words.)
Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions. Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits. Be careful of your habits, for your habits become your character. Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny.(unknown…)
Announcing this year’s word: BALANCE.
Today, on my quilting list, everyone (well, almost) is choosing a word! And oh, what wonderful words, what personal words!
I hope to see that we all focus on the best our words can bring us!
(edited for clarity) AND, I just received another word! I am joining a quilt challenge, where we create an art quilt every two months, utilizing that word….January/February is PUZZLE…
…fade into black (a starry night)….
Happy New Year!
2009. –Time really does go faster when you are having fun! And yet, some things seem a lifetime ago!
Over all, the year was a good one for me. I hope it was for you, too!
I actually accomplished some of my—well, I wouldn’t call them exactly resolutions—but some of the goals I had set for myself.
I have started to become a bit more serious about the photography; got my website up and running. (www.rteest42.smugmug.com)
I actually started, finished and entered a quilt into a challenge! (didn’t make it, but I entered!!)
I finished writing my fan fiction story, started in 2007; 178,000-ish words later, The Big Chill got its Happily Ever After.
We traveled, and I met new cousins and caught up with old friends…
(You will note the eat less chocolate/exercise more types of ‘resolutions’ are not featured here, nor will they be in the future, lol!!)
This new year, I would like to get back to writing, I would like to FINISH some of the over 35 quilt projects I have started, I would like to concentrate more on genealogy, and cataloging/scanning family photos. As well as take more photos, sell more photos, and organize the house, the studio specifically, and probably do some more cooking, and spend more time with friends and family and and and and….
None are really resolutions, because they only seem to put undue pressure on you, and untold, unnecessary guilt, when you are unable to hold to it…
And that seems a pretty negative way to start a new decade!
Balance. My word of the year…..
I hope that 2010 brings you only the best of everything!!!
(and I am headed to bed…work awaits at 7:30 am….)